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How to Find Your Story's Message
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When I ask prospective authors, “What is the message of your story?” I often get a quizzical stare. Trying to cover for their confusion, they usually answer my question with a long, detailed re-telling of their story.

See, here’s the thing: Your story’s narrative is not its message.

Instead, your story’s message is its inspirational kernel of truth. It’s the one sentence that sums up how your reader is a different person after reading your book. It’s the North Star or compass that drives your story forward. It’s that thing at the heart of your story to which people can relate.

For example, when I teach writing and publishing workshops, I often dissect the film The Wizard of Oz to illustrate how story structure works. (The Wizard of Oz has a solid story structure, which is one of the many reasons it was a huge hit in 1939 and still holds up today.) The message of The Wizard of Oz is this: There’s no place like home. That’s it. One sentence, one idea, for an entire two-hour movie. From the moment Dorothy runs away, her objective is to get back home. And every step of the way we are reminded why there is no place like home.

Your story has to have its own equally solid, identifiable message. And every word, sentence, paragraph, page, and chapter of your story must use its message to move the story forward. Even if your story is a non-fiction “how-to” book, a biography, memoir, or a cookbook, it still has to flow and touch the reader’s heart with its message.

So how do you find your story’s message? You start with your own authenticity. In its simplest form, your story’s message is your (or your characters’) strategies for success illustrated through your (or your characters’) personal experiences. For example, I’m willing to bet that no one reading this ever has engaged in an intergalactic battle against a dark side hell-bent on taking over the universe. Yet, we can totally relate to Luke Skywalker in the final scene of Star Wars (1977) when he has ONE SHOT to destroy the death star. At that moment he gets clarity, focuses, and hears Obi Wan's voice whisper, “Luke, the force is with you.” He fires and it’s a direct hit. What’s the message? The force is with you. You just have to get out of your own way to allow it to guide you. Do you have to live in a galaxy far, far away to appreciate this message? Absolutely not.

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If you’re writing non-fiction, you still have to tell a story with a beginning, middle, and end, and a message. How does that work? Let’s say you’re writing a “how-to” book for Millennials saving for retirement. You could just list tax law and the best investment opportunities for the time. Yawn. No one will read that. And worse yet, if they do they won’t retain any of it because straight prose in not memorable. There’s no clear message. We have no emotional attachment to rules and regulations.

On the other hand, if you educate your readers by telling the story of a college student with a part time job and what she does to make her small income work for her, well now, that’s something we’ll latch onto, because it’s engaging and relatable. What’s the message in this example? Save when you’re young, so you’re not destitute when you’re old.

Identifying a story’s message is so important that it’s the first step in my Roadmap to Your Story author plan. Roadmap to Your Story is a free session I offer to help writers strategize the course of their writing journeys. There’s nothing worse than composing pages and pages of content you can’t use because it meanders all over the place and has no point. I offer my free Roadmap to Your Story session either as a personal one-on-one session with clients who sign up for my Accelerated Authors Plan, or as a free workshop. There is no obligation to work with me beyond this workshop, simply because it’s my goal to make sure authors have clarity and direction before they sit down to write.

And the first step toward that clarity is to find your story’s message. I guarantee you it’s in there somewhere. So get a wiggle on and discover it. The world is waiting for to hear what you have to say.

Need more help? Check out the book The Message of You by Judy Carter. A standup comic and popular Toastmasters speaker, Judy has a unique process that easily guides you through finding your story's message. I highly recommend her book!


Stacy Dymalski on a good hair day

Stacy Dymalski on a good hair day

Known as The Memoir Midwife, Stacy Dymalski is a story editor,  writing coach, and film producer, and has helped hundreds of people find the courage to tell their stories. Whether you want to write a book, blog, podcast, or movie, Stacy can help you get unstuck (even if you're not a writer) and move in the direction of creative success. Check out the testimonials on her website, or click HERE to learn how Stacy can help you with your writing project.

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How to Release the Author Inside You

Has anyone ever told you that you have an interesting story to tell? Do you possess knowledge or a talent that people repeatedly seek out? Or do you simply have the plot to the next bestseller or Academy Award winning movie rattling around in your head?

If any of this applies to you, you’ve probably thought about writing a book (or a screenplay, or a blog, or a podcast). But then you second-guess yourself because, well, that’s what we do as humans. We take a creative, out-of-the-box, crazy idea and try to make sense of it. The problem is logic and creativity are like two parallel lines; they will never meet. So if you’re waiting for the right time to write your story, you will wait forever. Because there is always going to be something more important that takes precedent over realizing your dream; bills to pay, kids to raise, a career to build. Whatever.

But these distractions merely camouflage the bigger issue, which is fear. You’ve probably never written anything before, so now that you have a story to tell you’re afraid you won’t be able to write it, because you don’t consider yourself a writer. And because of that you’re afraid you’ll be judged. And because of that you’re afraid you may not finish your manuscript. And because of that

Do you see how quickly you go down a rabbit hole? This fear-based line of thinking is probably the most common reason people don’t write their stories.  And at the end of the day you’re left asking yourself: Should I write my story?

Can I really write my own story?

Can I really write my own story?

Although you’re the only one who can answer that question, I can at least lead you to your answer. As The Memoir Midwife I’ve helped hundreds of people give birth to their stories. And in my experience, there is one common denominator that every author possesses: passion. If it’s strong enough, passion can overcome fear. Passion is what makes people get up an extra hour earlier in the morning to write. Passion is what convinces someone to take a part time job to pay for self-publishing their own book. Passion is the fire in the belly that sparks belief in oneself that they can write their own story. And as it evolves, passion is what turns writers into authors.

How do you know if you have enough passion to go the distance? One way to find out is to take my free Tell Me Your Story assessment. It’s ten simple questions that give you insight into how serious you are about writing your story. There is no right or wrong outcome to this, because if you aren’t ready to tell your story, then you should let that idea go and move on. But if you are ready, this assessment gives you some things to think about. It’s absolutely free and you have no obligation in any way. However, if you want to discuss your answers with me to get further clarity, I’m happy to do so free of charge.

So what are you waiting for? You have nothing to lose. Click HERE  to download your copy of my free Tell Me Your Story assessment. Isn’t it time you found out if there’s an author inside of you waiting to come out?


Stacy Dymalski on a good hair day

Stacy Dymalski on a good hair day

Known as The Memoir Midwife, Stacy Dymalski is a story editor,  writing coach, and film producer, and has helped hundreds of people find the courage to tell their stories. Whether you want to write a book, blog, podcast, or movie, Stacy can help you get unstuck (even if you're not a writer) and move in the direction of creative success. Check out the testimonials on her website, or click HERE to learn how Stacy can help you with your writing project.

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